Growing up is an endless valley of trying to find the people that get along with you or have the same niche as you. You want to fit in?? DONT. No one was created with 1000 and one copies of themselves. It’s exhausting! I remember being in college and meeting a lot of diverse people and I learnt the hard way that being yourself is the best thing you can be. I’m not saying don’t make friends. Am just saying that friends,relationships aren’t worth sacrificing who you are. I believe the minute you try to fit it is the minute you start to loose yourself. My fear of not being good enough evaporated when I understood that our life’s stories and history of the world were written by the same hand.
I know we all want be cool and be noticed, but authenticity of ones self is “being cool”. You don’t need to dress or act a certain way to be appreciated, and if they don’t appreciate you for you then they aren’t meant for you. You can only find your best friend if you are 100% yourself, not 50% of someone else. The lesson I learnt this year is “it’s better to be alone than surrounded by people that are detrimental to your well being or people who bring you down”. I rather stay alone in my room watching Netflix or at a restaurant sipping tea and maybe the closest to me is my pet cat but it’s worth settling for that than with detrimental people. Being alone is lonely, alone-lonely both words correspond but it shows that you don’t settle for anything less and that’s not a bad thing.
📸 by kaniz. vsco.com/kanizsheikh